To some this post is a sensitive subject.
I was reading an Amish fiction book. The author wrote her characters talking about "pregnancy." Maybe in some Orders but, not across the board, I thought and emailed the author. She assured me she vetted some Amish and they spoke about such things. So I asked Josh, "When you were growing up, did you ever hear the word pregnancy?"
"No!" he answered. "If we saw a woman with a big belly we tried to figure it out."
I asked our son-in-law Harvey and received the same answer. "You mean even if you had a married sister who was expecting, your parents didn't tell you she was going to have a baby?"
"No," said Harvey. "They didn't speak of such things."
So when one of my ex-Amish groups kicked around the following question, I thought I'd post their answers for you to read. It's meant to neither criticize nor complement the Amish, just to give information. The question: How much did your Amish parents tell you in the way of sex ed? [Tweet That]
Below, in their own words, are answers from the ones who know best - they grew up Amish.
Ada Nothing natta not a word. My daughter at age almost 15 knows everything.
Jöhannes Sex education when I was a kid, observing barnyard animals clued me in more then my parents ever told me.
Norma My grandparents would turn over in their graves, lol. I was given a sweet, little Mennonite book that was informative, but i was very happy for a bit more info i got from a book i read on my own before i got married. It would have been a little much, lol.
Rebecca nothing from my parents, just from books that I read.
Levi N Emma Nothing....By that I got the impression it's dirty and shameful....now step in marriage and try to see it God's way!
Ada Heck we weren't even allowed to talk about periods. It was just plum silly.
Will Exactly what Johannes said, sex was not a thing that was ever mentioned growing up. I got my sex Ed from animals at home. LOL
Ada When I was like 13, I was at the neighbors and watching their dog having puppys and Dad came over and bout had a conniption fit cause I was not supposed to be watching such a thing. I thought, oh my yea I might just go to hell now.
Mary Ann my mom never taught me anything about my body or sex i learned everything from books i snuck out of dads office.
Dorothy Agreed I educated em young my own and any that I met just having left.
Lester On my own on that one.
Lester On my own on that one.
Wilma Nada at home, zero.
Joe Sounds like we was purdy much all on our own.
Rosa Mom didn't tell me a thing. Got my first period before I knew anything was happening. After that all I was told was "halt dich frei fuhn mansleit" [keep yourself free from men] What did that mean to an innocent young girl that knew nothing?
Rosa We were also given a little book that pretty much said nothing. I found mom's baby books because the subject was so closed at our house that I knew better than ask. Some of the rumors that passed around the neighborhood and school were ridiculous.
Sharon I was given a little book about a girl growing up, pretty basic stuff. Not really sex just periods. I did get sex ed in school though.
Verna I remember my Mom sitting down with me and explaining what it's all about. If I had questions she would answer me.
Rebecca So, no wonder Amish guys act like animals....
Samuel what I learned myself was what I knew they don't teach anything.
Paul As a kid, I was taught nothing on the subject. The Amish contributed to my "education" only by teaching me to read. A neighbor had a loosly guarded collection of books and magazines (complete with pics) on the subject. The rest is history.
There ya have it readers. What's your reaction? Join the comments below. ~Brenda
(C)Copyright, 2013, Brenda Nixon.
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