Thursday, October 23, 2014

Marvin - Knocked Down but Not Out, Part II

If you haven't read Marvin, Part I from last week. Read it first as today I'm continuing the amazing, unbelievable story about his life outside the Amish.

A year after his near-death auto accident, Marvin returned to independent life, regained his strength, and found work building and delivering those cute, little outdoor sheds for yard equipment.

Then the second of life's hard knocks took him down.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Marvin - Knocked Down but Not Out, Part I

You might have seen him on PBS's documentary, The Amish: Shunned.

Soft-spoken, pensive, responsive, adventuresome, grateful, and gentle.

We'd first met Marvin the week he'd left his Old Order Amish settlement in PA. He walked into our home, accompanied by Uriah. The duo had come to our home on a Sunday morning to attend church with us. At 18, Marvin looked young, innocent, unsullied by life's hard knocks.

But life had many hard knocks waiting for this young lad!

Wednesday, October 01, 2014

Censure and Criticism for Amish Truth

Last week I posted the accolades and applause for my blog and intimate knowledge about Amish. Here's the ugly, painful side of the truth-telling coin.

I'm not as vote-conscious as politicians nor thick-skinned as famous authors. Hateful criticism stings. Hurts. Bruises me. Maybe "controversy sells" in politics and publishing. But I don't thrive on it.

I won't run from it either.

Sometimes I ruminate for days over sour comments. Sometimes I'm able to turn them over to a big God who brought these ex-Amish into my life as His will. Out of His wisdom. For His reasons.

It'd surprise you who scolds me for writing truth about my experiences with Swartzentruber Amish and their fence-jumpers.

Monday, September 22, 2014

Accolades and Applause for Amish Truth

I'm a truth seeker. When sharing reality learned, through my experiences, I'm a magnet for those who also seek accuracy and authenticity about the Amish.

I'm from Austria in Europe, one reader said"and I read your blog because I'm really interested in Amish culture and I think you provide great inside into the Amish culture and traditions.” 

You provide an amazingly thorough look into the Amish lifestyle. I can't wait to read more …” commented Babs at It’s Sad, Breaks My Heart” 

I am one of your Australian readers. I have always been interested in a simple, from scratch, homemade, farming lifestyle. I was first introduced to the Amish through

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

Blogger of the Month

Happy Autumn. In Ohio, our trees are turning crimson red, bright orange, pale yellow, and light brown. Cool wind gusts shake leaves from their branches tossing them down like huge confetti.

And what an exciting month September is for me! Here are three biggies:

(1) Guess which blog won the BLOG OF THE MONTH at Book Fun Magazine (with a 400K readership)? See page 193, of this quality magazine, for an interview of me accompanied by lots of fantastic photos.

Monday, September 01, 2014

Amish Glossary - words you won't read elsewhere

Many times readers, friends, and neighbors ask me, "Has your son-in-law or others taught you Amish words?"

"Yep, I know a few."

Like the time our family hosted a French exchange teen, we sat around the table laughing and teaching phrases and words. I now know some Deutch. Some not so proper. You know, the slang. Thanks Harvey. Or the, uh, curse words. Thanks Monroe! And I know some typical household ones, too. Bahaef dich.

I think Amish - or Deutch or German - is a pretty language. I'm not a linguist but I've heard it referred to as Deutch or German, and a combination thereof. Did you know . . .

Monday, August 18, 2014

Time Warp

They did NOT want their son, Harvey, to marry our daughter!
Amish Laundry Day

They sent reprimanding letters - as did his siblings - warning him against marrying the English girl. They didn't reply to the wedding invitation. No family member attended nor sent a gift.

Yet, my husband and I have initiated three visits to their farm. Why? To build a bridge of friendship. To reach across the cultural fence. To show Harvey we embrace him and his Amish heritage.

I love pictures. "A picture is worth a thousand words" is accurate but, most Amish resist appearing on camera, so I cannot post pix of Harvey's parents. No way!

Friday, August 08, 2014

Want to Be Amish?

You know Amish wannabes? I do. No problem. No put down.

It's therapeutic to unwind. To desire living without stringent schedules. Technology-free. Have fewer demanding decisions to address. Wear the same clothes. Isn't that why we go on vacation?

I do think wannabes are embracing a contrived image rather than reality, and I'd encourage them to read ex-Old Order Ira Wagler's blog post, "Wannabe" Amish from June 20.

You may have heard of Ira or read his book Growing Up Amish. We email occasionally. He's the only former Amish I know who pursued a law degree, and wrote a NY Times bestseller. Impressive feats. He's articulate and active running a business.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Why Do Amish People Leave their Life?


Months ago an assistant professor of sociology, Dr. Caroline Faulkner, emailed. She was studying the curiosity, "Why do Amish people leave?" and asked me to help with names of ex-Amish from Old Order to interview.

We exchanged a stimulating email dialog. I explained that most of my relationships and personal experiences are with Swartentruber Amish (stricter and more mysterious than Old Order) but, I was able to provide her with names.

Saturday, July 19, 2014

How Do Swartzentruber Amish bathe?

A benefit of writing this blog is answering the many questions received in the Comments section below or via email. If you've not read my previous 66 posts you're missing tremendous info, in the post and in the Comments!

One inquiring mind emailed, "without indoor plumbing, how do Swartzentruber Amish bathe? I presume by obviously filling up a tub with water, but how often would they take baths? Would they do so in the kitchen? I'm just curious as to how it worked, and if they'd get any privacy since the families are typically so large."