He left his PA Old Order Amish settlement. Then he went back. Left again.
The second time he left his Amish life, the ex-Amish guy who picked him up in a car and brought him to Ohio, stopped in our home and introduced us to Marvin. At 18-years-young, he looked so naive. He'd left behind his Amish appearance -- English clothes, clean-shaven, short hair.
I wrote in detail about our relationship with Marvin, his near-death car accident and making me his medical POA during the delicate body repair surgery.
What's he doing since my book came out?
He missed his family and went back Amish.
Briefly. His vacillating behavior is not uncommon. Estrangement from parents and siblings, and maneuvering the unfamiliar English world without parent's guidance causes some to doubt their decision. To grow weary. They return.
Some remain Amish. But some say they can't stand all the rules, the cultural confines, the intense suspicious supervision.
Marvin left again.
He earned his GED, and is now attending his first semester of college -- studying criminal justice! I'm so proud of Marvin. Since he had no birth parent support, he applied for and received two grants. He likes football, recently went sky-diving, and is a hard worker as a lawncare specialist and delivery driver!
To my knowledge, Marvin isn't dating anyone. That's OK. Better to focus on work and school.
The last time he stopped in to see me, we talked at length over lunch. He told me a shocking fact. "The Amish in the settlement where I grew up thought they were better than anyone else," he revealed. "They were very judgmental of others that weren't as strict."
Wow, I'm always learning intimate stories and histories. And I'm always learning something new about this complex culture.
If you want to know more of Marvin's tumultuous history, read Chapter 7 of Beyond Buggies and Bonnets: Seven true stories of former Amish. Honestly, this was the hardest, most emotional chapter I wrote.
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(C)Copyright, 2015, Brenda Nixon.